Most people carry a part of the past with them, mostly those that they cannot and should not deal with, because this is the only way to live fulfilled, happy and contentedly. So it is time to face your mistakes, forgive yourself and others, and keep living the way you deserve …
How to move on and forgive yourself can be one of the most rewarding things you will do for yourself in the future.
Acceptance – Forgiveness is not just an easy way out. It’s about acceptance. Accepting things as they are means a better and happier future before you.
Avoiding Survival – It’s about accepting what happened in the past, being ready to get over it and move on.
Reconciliation with what happened – This means that you have to come to terms with without rationalizing or justifying your actions in order to accept them.
Regret – When you take on responsibility, you can experience a range of negative emotions. Guilt and shame are rife and that’s fine.
Learn from Mistakes – Learning from your mistakes can help you avoid the same mistakes.
Restoration and Repair – The next phase of self-forgiveness is aimed at repairing and restoring confidence. Apologizing and changing your behavior is an important part.
Renewal – This often requires the ability to learn from experience in order to move forward.
Understanding the Mistake – You need to understand why you did what you did and what you can do to keep it from happening again.
Talking – Talking to other people is one of the most useful things we can do about how we feel.
Words help us to understand – we think like people with words. When we don’t have words to express our feelings, they remain clouds of negative thoughts, not specific words like “guilt” to deal with.
Stop and breathe – Nobody benefits from repeating a mistake. It offends you and others and doesn’t change anything other than make you feel worse.
Gratitude – Try replacing guilt with gratitude. Be grateful for the things you have in your life and for the good relationships with the people you have chosen to be with you.